InnerTalk Blog

I thought we were done discussing the issue of self-sabotage but then I remembered a phone call that got me thinking. It seems there are still more ways in which we can sabotage our own dreams and goals, and quite frankly this one can make me angry. In this phone ...

Paraphrased, J. Krishnamurti said, “Choice is an illusion. Do I do this—do I do that—all of this is confusion. I can only choose when I’m confused. When I know clearly, there is no choice.” Thirty years ago, Benjamin Libet showed that there is activity in the subconscious within milliseconds before ...

When I look back on my life it’s apparent that my life’s work has been all about self-sabotage. I didn’t recognize that for years, but even back many years ago when I spent my days conducting lie detection tests, I was questioning, “Why would someone behave this way? What on ...

Years ago, a young woman came to me for help. To maintain confidentiality, I will invent a name for her. I’ll call her Mary. This young woman in her late thirties had a history of self-mutilation and suicidal behavior. She came in for pastoral counseling, and I agreed to see ...

Mindfulness has become quite a buzz word these last few years, but what exactly does it mean to you? I have to confess that it had me a little confused for a while. But then I thought about it more and realized that it formed the basis behind much of ...

What is mindfulness? Defined, it is strictly a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Is there a special skill involved? Yes and no. Let us examine mindfulness. Health Benefits Everywhere a person turns today ...