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Thought of the Month
The strongest and sweetest songs yet remain to be sung.
Testimonials of the Month We love your tapes. We have 12 so far. They
work. I changed. I lost 3 inches on my waist, still eating normal. I
also excel in all other ways and all I touch turns to gold so to speak.
Becoming more successful every day. A. W., San Juan Capistrano, CA.
I recently purchased "Freedom from Alcohol" and have been listening to
it at night while I sleep. It's fantastic, after 1 month I have no
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for a great product! R. S., Van Nuys, CA
Why It's So Easy to Fail at Our Resolutions The New Year is upon us and
if you are like so many, you made some resolutions and already have
relented or let go of some of your ambitions. Every year millions of
people do just that. There is such hope in the approach of a new
beginning and yet it is so easy to just let that hope slip into
forgotten dreams of the past.
I have spoken with many people that do not remember their New Year
resolutions from years past. If you think about it for a moment, do you
remember your resolutions from five years ago, from two years ago,
indeed, from last year? Why is it we forget so quickly? First we resign
ourselves to relenting and then we forget what we relented--is that
instructional? I think so.
We are all familiar with "wishful thinking." Yet, most make their
resolutions in much the same way. We can imagine an internal dialog
deciding on the New Year's resolutions:
In this next year I will stop getting angry!
I will use my spare time in wiser ways.
I will save money.
I will get fit.
And so forth.
The problem should be obvious. Let's think of it framed in the same
context, an internal dialog but one that promises success with the
In this next year I will stop getting angry.
How will you do this?
Good question--what triggers my anger?
I know when I get upset and it comes from frustration.
So, how do we control the frustration and get to what's behind it?
When you dialog a resolution in this manner, it becomes easy to see why
most resolutions fail. That is, there is always an underlying cause and
at least one, if not a set of emotional triggers that are incorporated
in and around any and all of our so-called behaviors. What is more,
some emotional "need," at least a perceived need (belief), is satisfied
as a result of our existing behavior. As such, we fail to make the
change we desire until and unless we redefine the context in which our
beliefs rest so we can effectively alter our "needs."
I spend a good deal of time in Choices and Illusions on how we get
these beliefs that fail to serve our highest best. I also discuss how
the context behind our beliefs frames and specifically delimits our
choices. Recently I had a conversation with a talk radio host and it
occurred to me that one of Ellen Langer's ideas might help everyone
understand just how powerful this context stuff is. I use this metaphor
for many things but in particular for smokers and I do know something
about that addiction having smoked three packs of cigarettes a day for
over thirty years. So here is the metaphor, think about the saliva in
your mouth. Move it around and taste it. It may surprise some, but it
actually tastes good and we are glad we have it. Now think of spitting
some saliva into a clear glass and then imagine picking the glass up
and drinking the spit. Something changed--didn't it. When smokers
realize that the context they hold cigarettes in must fundamentally
shift from the saliva in their mouth to spit in the glass, they get it.
All of us have a context to our beliefs and sometimes the context both
betrays common sense and ourselves.
One of the powers people experience with our InnerTalk programs is a
new internal dialog that leads to a shift in context and follows with
the desired change. In my book, Choices and Illusions, you will find
many other ways to alter old self-sabotaging beliefs and replace them
with powerful new convictions that truly do empower you to realize your
To your success in 2008!
One of the most asked questions I have encountered since the
publication of Choices and Illusions seeks to understand the notion of
self-fulfillment or self-actualization. In an effort to further our
communication with all of you, we have begun to use You Tube. I invite
all of you to take a look at our first posting there which addresses
the question, "What is self-actualization?"
Go here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2W-w6m6t6Uk
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Tuesday, January 15, 2008
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