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Have you ever found yourself struggling with something you genuinely thought would be easy? Perhaps you’ve done something similar before. You know you have the ability. You may even have a good plan and plenty of motivation. Yet somehow, this time, you keep running into a roadblock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or perhaps you’re working toward something that matters enormously to you and doing almost everything right, but progress remains frustratingly slow. It’s tempting at times like these to simply try harder. But what if effort isn’t really the problem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Does Success Require From You Now?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I think we sometimes make the mistake of viewing success as though it were a fixed formula. Develop the right qualities, work hard, make good decisions, and success should follow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life is rarely that simple. Success isn’t a fixed state. It’s an ongoing relationship between who you are, what you’re trying to accomplish, and what life is asking of you right now. <\/em>At one point in your life, motivation may be enormously important. At another, you may have all the motivation in the world, but stress is interfering with your ability to think clearly. You may have a wonderful opportunity in front of you, but lack the confidence to seize it. Or perhaps you have confidence and enthusiasm but no clear strategy for turning your vision into reality. Something you expected to find easy can suddenly hit a roadblock because the circumstances are different\u2014or because you are different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At any particular moment, one inner resource may make an enormous difference. Sometimes it will be a combination of several. We rarely know in advance exactly which ones we will need, but we do know many of the basic inner resources that support success\u2014whatever success may mean to you.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your Success Doesn’t Have to Look Like Mine<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We tend to hear the word “success” and immediately think about careers, money, achievement, or status. Those things can certainly represent success, but they’re only part of the picture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For an entrepreneur, success might mean building a thriving company. For an employee, it might mean earning a promotion, becoming better at what they do, or finally finding work they genuinely enjoy. An artist may define success as having the courage and freedom to create something meaningful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what about the stay-at-home parent who wants to raise happy, confident children while somehow maintaining a sense of self amid the demands of family life? Or the caregiver who needs strength, patience, perspective, and the ability to care for themselves as well as someone they love?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A student may be working toward an education and the life it could make possible. An athlete may be striving for a personal best. And someone who has retired may be discovering that success now means something completely different\u2014remaining engaged, healthy and curious, pursuing interests that were postponed for years, or creating an entirely new vision for the decades still ahead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A student, caregiver, artist, athlete, entrepreneur, employee, parent and retiree can all be successful. The destination changes. The inner resources that help us reach it remain remarkably similar.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Success isn’t about reaching somebody else’s destination. It’s about having the inner resources to reach your own.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Building Your Inner Toolbox<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is why I think it’s useful to look at success from another direction. Instead of asking, “What am I doing wrong?” perhaps a better question is, “What inner resource would help me most right now?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n