I had the most interesting experience over the holidays this last year—interesting and educational. As this experience answers, in part at least, one of the most common kinds of questions we receive about the InnerTalk programs, I thought I would share it with you.
I was up early on Christmas Eve and, wanting to give my family a chance to sleep in, I made sure to keep my movements soft and quiet. I even tiptoed into our bedroom when it was time to shower. It wasn’t until I was getting dressed that I heard my husband mutter something about him bleeding. When I went to check, I was horrified to see that, far from sleeping peacefully, he was laying in bed covered in blood!
Blood Pressure
It seems that, while I had been downstairs, he had gotten up, used the bathroom and, on his way back to bed, blacked out and fallen flat on his face. When he came too, he had simply crawled back to bed. In time we would learn that numerous factors had combined to create the ‘perfect storm.’ He had just been coming down with the flu, and had problems sleeping because of a severe sore throat. When the Advil didn’t work, he decided, in the early hours of the morning, to take one of the tramadol pills left over from his out patient surgery 2 weeks prior to remove a skin cancer. His visit to the bathroom, after I had already arisen, caused a sudden drop in blood pressure and this is what caused him to black out. Apparently, taking a ‘pee’ first thing in the morning really can cause your blood pressure to drop that much! It took an ambulance ride and numerous tests before we were assured that he did not have a concussion from the fall and there were no other underlying conditions we should be concerned about. What he did now have though, was a broken nose in addition to his flu. Can you imagine feeling all stuffed up and sneezy, and trying to blow your nose when it’s broken? My poor husband—the holidays sure were very challenging!
Nerves
However, the information I wish to share with you really has nothing to do with the hidden dangers in standing up to ‘pee’ first thing in the morning, but rather some of my own reactions to the entire situation. You see, we had had a heavy snowfall the night before (so bad that the ambulance almost had to call for extra help just to get out of our driveway), and my own car was in the shop. This meant that the most reliable 4-wheel drive vehicle we had was my husband’s F250 truck. Now, I have come a long way since learning to drive in a Mini Cooper three decades ago, and my own Ford Expedition is no small car, but even so, Eldon’s F250 can intimidate me, especially with over 6-inches of new snow! Fortunately for me (kind of!), both of our sons drive, and neither of them would admit to any hesitation about driving Dad’s truck. So I acquiesced—I drove to the hospital in the ambulance with Eldon and we were both perfectly happy to sit in the back seat when our oldest son drove us home.
Now, here is the crux of the matter. I have been driving for over 30 years. In that time, I have had two extremely minor accidents—barely a dent in the bumper caused while backing up—and two major accidents where I was completely blameless (one where an escaped felon broadsided me while trying to evade the police, and the other where a cyclist had run a stop sign). I have driven all over the U.K., and in a number of different States. I have also driven Eldon’s trucks a few times, and every time I was surprised to find out how easy they were to handle. Plus, I simply love the visibility factor! On the other hand, both of my sons can be aggressive drivers—a little reckless for my preference—and when you combine their driving years, you still cannot reach one decade. Both sons too have damaged cars resulting in significant repair bills. However, there is one essential difference and it comes down to Eldon’s attitude.
The Perfect Partner
As many of you are aware, especially if you listen to Eldon’s Provocative Enlightenment Radio show, Eldon is like a dream husband! He calls me his bride and his Princess; he opens doors for me, insists on carrying my stuff (including my briefcase home from work), objects to me taking out the garbage myself, and prefers that I walk on the inside so he can protect me (from being splashed by cars?). He always does all of the driving (even on really long trips), will take my car out just to fill it with gas (years can go by between me having to handle the gas pumps myself), and totally deals with the servicing of my cars. He is the most perfect, old-fashioned gentleman, and I am the envy of my friends and family! Eldon has also gone out of his way to bring our sons up with the same values, attitudes, respect and caring towards women, and with the same ‘can-do’ attitude!
Self-Esteem
Are you beginning to see the problem? Most of us are aware of the many root causes for poor self-esteem—comments from classmates, peers, family and teachers, the media that will do anything to convince you to buy some new product, and past experiences that convince you that you are lacking in some way or other, etc. But this entire experience taught me that being loved too much could also cause poor self-esteem! Of course I am the best driver in the family after my husband, but all of the gentlemanly care I had received when it came to driving, had left me really insecure about my own abilities!
So, the common questions about InnerTalk that I am addressing, would include “how permanent are the results” and “how long do you have to listen to the programs?” I have shared with you in the past how I started off with InnerTalk using the Soaring Self-Esteemprogram, and how far I have come since then. I have explained that this is a program I go back to periodically whenever I am feeling down on myself. I also believe that it is because I have listened to the program so much in the past that it has become so much easier for me to identify a new issue when it comes up. Once I had seen that the root cause of my constant chewing of the skin around my nails, I dropped the habit immediately (after trying unsuccessfully for almost 25 years!). And now, I quickly identified the root issue behind my reluctance to drive Eldon’s F250 truck—I saw the problem even while I was agreeing that my oldest son should do the driving!
How High is Up?
An analogy that Eldon uses often when it comes to self-improvement has to do with peeling back the layers of an onion—you always find another layer. And so, when it comes to my own esteem issues, life experiences keep showing me another layer. Some could see this as being negative, but I do not—I see it as another example of searching for ‘how high is up.’
The fact is, we do not live in sterile bubbles—negative input will always find its way in. How you feel about yourself plays a huge role in the successes you experience in life. There is nothing more important than having a strong sense of self-belief. And remember, sometimes you will need to tackle the same issue from different perspectives. At InnerTalk, we actually have 4 different programs that boost self esteem:
- Soaring Self Esteem;
- Rescripting the Child Within;
- Survivors of Abuse; and
- Healing from Invalidation.
If you take a look at the different sets of affirmations you will understand why. I have used all of these programs at some point and they have all been most helpful. Also remember the experience I shared in a recent newsletter regarding the results I achieved when using OZO Health and Healing—for me it is one of the most powerful, immediate esteem boosters we offer. And of course, I have used our Power Imaging Well-Being and Esteem so much that I have created a personal happy space that I can find under almost any conditions! All in all, the best esteem deal we have is the Soaring Self Esteem collection as it draws on all the different technologies. But check them all out for yourself and decide the format(s) that will suit your lifestyle the best. Just remember, unless you have a strong self-esteem, there will always be areas where you hold yourself back, and, everyone can benefit from an esteem boost at certain times in their lives!
Wishing you Love, Light, and Laughter, always!
Ravinder Taylor
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