Self-sabotage has to be one of the most misunderstood subconscious strategies. At least it would seem so judging by all the questions we get asked about it—questions such as, “I want to be wealthy (slim, smart, successful, in love etc.). I’m doing everything I can to achieve this goal, so why would I sabotage my own progress?” On the surface it just does not seem to make any sense. However, if you dig further you will invariably find that self-sabotage is really a form of self-preservation, a tactic your subconscious mind employs in order to prevent you from being hurt. As such, it is really hard for a person to be wealthy if they have a subconscious belief that money is the root of all evil, or profit is a poor motive and not in the best interest of society, or that they don’t deserve to be wealthy, or that they are too unlucky to ever be wealthy, etc. Here the subconscious is working to keep the person in their designated place or to assist them in not betraying their own standards! Weight loss can have its own self-destructive beliefs, such as, “I always fail. Why bother. Weight loss is too hard. If I lose weight, I may be subject to unwanted attention,” etc.
Subconscious Expressions
While most think of self-sabotage as the repeated failure at achieving a specific goal, self-sabotage can actually express itself in many ways, and oftentimes in ways that appear to be totally unrelated to the specific goal. This really was how my own career in self-growth really began. Almost 30 years ago now, I was working at the Leicester Royal Infirmary in their microbiology laboratory. A visiting lecturer/anesthesiologist gave a presentation, in which he shared a story about a woman who had been experiencing a pain in her arm for many years. She had seen lots of medical experts and no one had been able to help her. Under hypnosis, her subconscious mind informed her of an old traumatic event—something she had long since recovered from. Or so she thought! Much to her surprise, once the traumatic event had come to light, the pain in her arm went away. Why did the subconscious choose to express itself in this way?
Breaking the Habit
Earlier this year I told you about a disgusting habit that I used to have—that of chewing my cuticles and the skin around my nails. I have used Eldon’s InnerTalk program for Eliminating Self-Sabotage for many different reasons over the years—I also find it to be a very powerful esteem program as well. However, I had never thought that this horrible habit of mine, a habit that for 25 years had been impossible to break, could be due to a self-destructive mechanism. Then I had a realization. Even though Eldon and I had had a fairy book start to our relationship, I never really felt worthy of him. Always expecting this ‘good’ thing not to last, it seems I started to chew my fingers partly out of nerves, and also as a constant reminder not to get too comfortable. The subconscious mind can create some really interesting strategies that can often seem nonsensical in the cold light of day. This realization did not make any sense to me, but much to my surprise, as soon as I realized this, my finger chewing stopped cold! I first wrote about it in a newsletter after I had quit this habit for about 12 weeks. Today I have been free of this habit for 9 months! I do not need any other proof that this was a habit created out of a self-destructive pattern.
Eliminating Self Sabotage
If there is something that you continue to fail at, regardless of how much effort you put into it, then you need to consider if self-sabotage could be the reason. The Eliminating Self-Sabotage library includes titles such as Boundless Joy, Personal Peace, Ending Self-Destructive Patterns, Healing from Invalidation, Rescripting the Child Within, Releasing Anger, Confidence, and Have It All—the complete package for eliminating your self sabotaging mechanisms and putting you on the path to success. Get your copy here.
Wishing you love, light, and laughter, always!
Ravinder Taylor
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